An Empowering Space

strongHappy New Year to all my followers and readers!!!!!!!!!/strong

strong /strongI started the New Year with a Bang, facilitating my first workshop for 2010 with Partners Georgina Terry and Kaffi Phillips.  It is the first in a series of workshops we intend to host this year.  Coaching seems to be now catching on in my country and people are becoming more aware of the benefits of having a coach or partaking in a coaching workshop.  As the New Year rolls in, and with the global economic crisis vivid in our memories, many people are finding themselves in transition or at a crossroads in their life.  The world as we know it is shifting, getting smaller, more accessible, more fast paced, while our beliefs and values are also shifting and changing.  We need new tools and life skills to support us on our journey.

What many participants discovered during the workshop is, the way in which we limit ourselves by focusing on only three of four areas in our lives, and so feel as though something is missing in our life.  We feel unfulfilled, dissatisfied, overwhelmed, confused.  Many times if there is a loss in one of these areas to which we have devoted most of our time, energy and resources, it can feel like our entire world is falling apart, or that we have lost everything.

So what is the secret to thriving vs surviving: - Living a more balanced life, a life filled with joy and passion and the things that truly make your heart sing. Becoming the interior designer of your own life in an integral way - body,mind, heart, spirit.  Living a life by design versus a life by default.  Living a life in the present, not in the future …. Someday when… or in the past If only…… Your point of power is in the present, it is only in the present moment that you can take an inspired action that can change your past or future.
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liemstrongHow balanced is your life?/strong/em/li
liemstrongWhere do you dedicate your time, energy and resources?/strong/em/li
liemstrongWhere do you feel a gap in what you currently have and what you truly desire?/strong/em/li
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Finances:- Income, investments, retirement
Work:- Career, business
Family:- married life, single life, children
Health and Recreation:-Everything you do to take care of yourself
Community:-Friends, social life, community involvement
Living environment:- Your setting, your space, your home, office
Personal Growth:- What you  do or learn to improve yourself
Spirituality:- Your spiritual life.

Rate each area of your life and if you are absolutely satisfied in this area of your life then you are thriving and give yourself a 10.  A 1 in this area of your life would mean that you are absolutely not satisfied with this area of your life and may be surviving or even suffering.
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liemstrongHow do you rate yourself between 1-10 in each area?/strong/em/li
liemstrongWhat would a 10 look like in the area in which you scored the lowest mark?/strong/em/li
liemstrongHow can you begin to create this?/strong/em/li
liemstrongWhat steps can you take to close in the gaps?/strong/em/li
liemstrongWhat gets in your way?/strong/em/lifont style=position: absolute;overflow: hidden;height: 0;width: 0a href=http://www.videnov.com/#1082;#1091;#1093;#1085;#1080;/a/font
liemstrongHow do your habits, beliefs and behaviors need to be altered in order to close those gaps?/strong/em/li
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Start designing your New Year, invest in yourself and your happiness. Take this opportunity to put your hands on the wheel of your life and turn it at a speed that returns you to happiness more quickly.  Learn to navigate these times as smoothly as possible, so you emerge more resilient, less drained, more energized and more inspired in your life.

strongemWhat first steps will you take to get you out of the passenger’s seat and put you back in the driver’s seat?
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If you are interested in attending one of our strongThrive vs Survive Interactive Workshops/strong send and email to info@bpdassociates.com.   If you are interested in a professional coach who can assist you through the life design process, please send me an email through the form on my contact page.

strongStop delaying your happiness./strong

This week clear out of the blue, My coaching partner Georgina Terry www.bpdassociates.com gifted me with a wonderful experience. Georgina had designed a  workshop on developing Presentation Skills which she was going to present at the Commonwealth Youth Forum aboard the Caribbean Princess docked here in Trinidad for the Commonwealth Heads Of Government Meeting.  This ship was being used as a floating learning center for the youth of the Caribbean Region to discuss different topics and to offer free training and development for the youth.

Well as the story goes Georgina only found out two days before she was supposed to facilitate that the workshop was not one hour but rather one day and she could bring along other facilitators.  So she called up her Associates Kaffi Phillips and myself to see if we would be able to help at this eleventh hour. Georgina redesigned the entire workshop and here I was off to facilitate a presentation which I had not yet seen. Because coaching is my passion, I rearranged my day so that I could attend this workshop.

At 8:00am after we had breakfast I sat with Georgina and looked through the slides as the workshop was begining at 9:00am.  Slowly people started walking into the room one by one. Young people between the ages of 19 and 29. We greeted and had introductory conversations with different people as they found their ideal spot and made themselves comfortable in the room.

I do not believe that any of us in that room were prepared for the transformations that were about to take place.  Being a transformational coach, those AHA! Moments (a higher awareness)  when we stand in a truth and things can never be the same are some of the most meaningful moments in coaching.

Georgina began the introductions and began the facilitation, with everyone sharing their expectations and the ground rules- rules of engagement.  The group got very involved setting out the guidelines of how they wanted to show up in this space.

As the presentation continued the youth realized that this was going to be an extremely interactive and engaging workshop and no one would be falling asleep or have time for boredom.

We worked with them around creating a vision and reconnecting with their passion in order to develop their compelling story for their presentations. Some people got to work immediately and there was a buzz in the room but others could not remember or find something that they were passionate about. So we walked around the room and supported those who needed a little help by using empowering questions.

I noticed one person in particular who had a blank page and was staring ahead of her in thought.  I asked her if she needed some help reconnecting and she said yes.  So we sat together and I began asking her some questions helping her reconnect to the things that bring her joy in her life. She started jotting down all these ideas and then I asked her to see if she could find or make a connection between them. I asked her not to think if it was possible, but to just open up to the image and create a space for the possibility. I asked her if I could share a possible perspective and option with her.   As soon as the words came out my mouth there was a twinkle in her eye and her body shifter. She wanted to be able to write and share stories of different cultures and travel around the world doing so, and had never ever thought of that as a possibility for herself. Now she had a vision.  It was as though a light went on inside her.  I could see the energy of excitement, possibility, and passion pulsing inside her. I told her this was just one possibility and when looking at the words on her page see how she could connect them with the word and versus or and create something new and exciting.

After we had finished the exercise while Georgina was speaking two gentlemen came over to me to say that they were reporters with the BBC.  They had visited the different workshops and wanted to interview five from our workshop as this seemed like the place where people were passionate about their views. So I asked them to wait till the session was nearing and end and then I would let them speak and introduce themselves so they could choose the volunteers.

In the end everyone was connecting with their “joy juice” the energy in the room changed, people were excited to share and participate and were eager to share and receive feedback. One person shared her story and had touched on a truth of why what she was saying was so important for the youth and shared a personal story, she became very emotional and continued as Georgina and myself stood at her side.  She told a compelling story and it touched everyone in the room.   She thought she had done a terrible job, because she had gotten emotional.  I shared with the group that many of us think that power is a strength, a force, being in control of our emotions, not showing our weakness, but true inner strength comes from being able to stand in your truth no matter how difficult and share your vulnerabilities with others from the deepest places in our hearts.

At the end of the first session The BBC broadcasters stepped in and asked for people who were willing to share their stories, both the shy girl who I helped and the one who thought she had done a horrible job, were two of the volunteers that stepped into an empowering space.   I realized that as the shy girl had allowed herself the opportunity to believe in the possibility, her energy shifted and BBC reporters arrived to receive her very first story.  Validating the saying by Napolean Hill -What the mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve.

It was such a joy and privilege for me to be standing on the brink of an empowering space, witnessing these youth rediscover the passion in their hearts and their untold stories.

I was not present for the evening session as I had my radio show that evening the Power of storytelling and Kaffie Phillips took that session with Georgina.  Georgina shared with me that the stories in the end were all beautiful and inspiring.  Everyone had stepped into the empowering space of sharing their vulnerability, a truly powerful place where they stood in their truth, and were transformed as speakers, and presenters.

It was a wonderful journey from the head to their hearts.

Those who do not have power over the story that dominates their lives, the power to retell it, rethink it, deconstruct it, joke about it, and change it as times change, truly are powerless, because they cannot think new thoughts. —Salman Rushdie

We are all born story tellers.  We tell stories about our life, our families, our careers, our present, past and future, where we came from and where we are going.  We learn, socialize and communicate by sharing stories, funny stories, sad stories, angry stories, happy stories. Our stories are how we creatively convert our lives into more powerful and meaningful experiences.  However if we tell our selves the same small limiting story, then we will live a small limiting life.

What are some of the stories we tell ourselves?

• I have no choice.
• It’s just the way things are
• Why does this always happen to me?
• I am just not lucky enough.
• I just keep attracting the same type of partner in my relationships.

Are you sick and tired of hearing yourself repeat the same excuses and justifications all rolled up into a tiring storyline?
Don’t you wish you could just get rid of the old worn out script?
Are you ready to let go of the drama?

Well this week I have a wonderful and exciting guest on my radio program Empowering Space – Your Hour of Power. Lisa Bloom is an accomplished Storyteller, Professional Certified Coach (ICF) and experienced Training & Development Specialist with more than 20 years experience working in public and private sectors, high-tech and financial services environments with organizations and individuals. She is a talented and creative story coach who has proven ability in increasing Individual Motivation, Fulfilment and Happiness, Organizational Effectiveness, Employee Satisfaction and Management Development Skills. And she can spin a great yarn!  The real magic has been the combining of Lisa’s greatest passions, experience and skills to create Story Coach Inc.
If you are interested in rewriting a new story for your life or your coaching business then you need to take this time to come share an Empowering Space with us Thursday 26th November, 2009 at 8:00pm EST - 9:00pm local time

www.story-coach.com

http: www.story-coach.com/cinderella

This is a dynamic and powerful program, merging the arts of Storytelling and Coaching - it is exactly what you need to take the next step, to bring your business to greater success.

• Have you ever listened to your voice on a recording and wondered, who is that?
• Is that what I really sound like to others?
• Did they understand what I meant?
• Gees, I stutter and stammer and fill in spaces with so many noises and sounds?
• Am I  really that distracting when I speak?
• Did anyone get the message?

Join me Lydia Mattison and my guest Nicki Mc Clusky at An Empowering Space- Your Hour of Power as Nicki shares with us some tips on the show Power of Finding Your Authentic Voice, at 8:00pm EST Thursday 19th March.

Nicki Mc Clusky has a dual practice in coaching and psychotherapy, based in St. Louis,   Missouri.  She has served individuals and groups wishing to gain psychotherapeutic insight, healing, and self understanding during the past 28 years. Nicki entered the Life and Spiritual Coaching world five years ago, first studying at Mentor Coach and the Institute for Life Coach Training for therapists.  She is presently pursuing higher levels of coaching certification through the International Coach Academy.

As a specialized Voice Coach, Nicki coaches clients to find and speak from the voice of their souls as they learn to become compelling, authentic speakers.  She works with trainers, coaches, TV news anchors, Radio hosts, local and state elected officials, coaches, podium speakers, executives, those creating videos, etc. to improve their vocal skills and their capacity to speak authentically and from inner Self power.   www.findyourvoicecoach.com

* What does having an Authentic Voice really mean?
* How do we hide our power with the words we speak, the language we use?
* What power an impact could your voice have in your personal and professional life?
* How can I reclaim my Authentic Voice?

Have you ever asked yourself any of the following questions:

• What makes me tick?
• Why do people not understand me?
• Why do I say some of the things that I do?
• Why do I act in certain ways?
• If it makes sense to me why don’t you get it?
  
• How do I get along with certain people and others I just cannot be around?
• Why do I keep attracting the same type of relationships?
  
• Why are some people so difficult?
• What makes it difficult to get along with me?
• What impact do I have on others?

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• How can I deepen the relationships in my life?
  
• How do I experience life?

If these are just a few of the questions and thoughts that pop into your head on a daily basis you are a seeker of self knowledge.  You are interested in revealing the truth and answering the most fundamental spiritual questions “Who am I?” “Why am I here?” “What do I have to contribute?”

The Enneagram is a study of the nine different perspectives and world views.  It explains why we think what we think, see and act the way we do.  It points to specific directions for individual growth. It is an important tool for improving relationships with family, friends, and co-workers. The Enneagram is one of the most transformational and empowering tools for self-discovery. It offers a map that shows your habits of attentions, your motivations, your actions, your inner thoughts, your challenges, your gifts, desires and needs and how we limit ourselves. It helps reveal your inner story, your core beliefs, and the choices you make that create your life.

When we are able to reveal these habitual patterns and triggers we can then choose differently and so recreate and re-design a life we truly want to live.  It takes us out of the box in which we place ourselves, the box that limits us. With the information that is revealed through working with the Enneagram, we can be liberated to make more informed choices in our lives, and live more consciously, rather than living on autopilot or in the passenger’s seat. We can embrace the best of all types within ourselves.

Are you ready to make a difference in your life and those around you?

Help yourself! Get simple insights into yourself and others!

If you are interested in deep coaching and transformation through the enneagram or  discovering your Enneagram type,  go to the top of the page,  click “Contact Me” and send me an email.

For more information on the Enneagram visit our blog,  Soul Perspectives, another Empowering Space.  http://ennespace.worpress.com