An Empowering Space

What is the Enneagram? Definitely not another personality test that pigeonholes people.  It is a map of the inner worlds of nine distinct perspectives from which people act and respond to life.  It shows us our strengths, limitations, habits of attention and responses.  It helps you step out of the box which limits you - “your point of view.”

When some one does something we wouldn’t do, have you ever caught yourself saying or wondering “What in the world were they thinking?” Their actions surprise us, because their actions would not flow from our inner worlds and our viewpoint.

Thursday 4th of September at 8:00pm EST, I will have a wonderful guest to share with you on An Empowering Space - Your Hour of Power.

Dr. Roxanne Howe-Murphy’s work  inspires, deepens and animates that which is the best within us by focusing on healthy adult psychological and spiritual development. She is deeply committed to helping people wake-up to their true nature and heal, and uses the awakening and integrative body of wisdom called the Enneagram to support that process.

She founded LifeWise Learning Institute, an executive and life coaching company in 1997. She is an author, Enneagram Teacher and Coach. Roxanne is also the Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area.

She teaches the Enneagram through classes, workshops, and retreats, and is an authorized teacher of the teachings of Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson, preeminent Enneagram teachers and authors of the best-selling Enneagram books.

Roxanne’s latest book, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, was written to support coaches and other professionals in integrating the Enneagram into their practices. The book has been well-received internationally and is being translated into Korean. Roxanne founded the Deep Coaching Training Program to further coaching professional development. ( Her book can be purchased in the Coaching section of my online store)

Her website is www.lifewisecoaching.com

Come enter an Empowering Space, where we will answer any questions on the Enneagram.  The number to call is 347 215 8414.  Come expand your world, remove the veil of your enneagram type and see how the enneagram can transform your life and relationships.

Deep coaching

Free Enneagram Institute Quest Test

Introduction to the Enneagram

Stepping out of the Box

The Stages of the Work

Tired of sitting on the sidelines being a spectator?

Are you ready to play the game of life and Make the most of it?

Here are the 10 rules of life written by Cherie Carter-Scott:

“Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.” -(Helen Keller)

Rule One - You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it’s yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what’s inside.

Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons specific to you, and learning them ‘is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life’.

Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it’s inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you’d want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it’s also ‘the act of erasing an emotional debt’. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that ‘mistakes’ are simply lessons we must learn.

Rule Four: - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - ‘causality’ must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn’t happen overnight, so give change time to happen.

Rule Five: - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the ‘rhythm of life’, don’t struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities.

Rule Six: - “There” is no better than “here”. The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what’s good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace.

Rule Seven: - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs.

Rule Eight: - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don’t get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what’s right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead.

Rule Nine: - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration.

Rule Ten: - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself.

These are Cherie Carter- Scott’s 10 rules for being Human. This book is highly recommended in coaching circles. This is only a brief summary and outline which simply does not do the book justice, nor the wisdom and insights within it. If you are interested in making the most of your life, uncovering some of the mysteries, and helping others do the same, Cherie Carter-Scott’s book ‘If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules’ is a treasure you will want to keep on your shelf.

Don’t take anything personally:
“Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their needs, their dreams. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” Don Miguel Ruiz - The four Agreements

How can we avoid taking things personally?

Remember everyone has a different point of view and sees the world through that point of view.  that point of view is coloured by their beliefs, opinions, thoughts, emotions, and fears.

How can we not take things personally in a world with so much personal interaction?
Even if someone insults you directly, it has nothing to do with you. The only way it can make you suffer is if somewhere, on some level, you believe this to be true about yourself. We as human beings project onto others. All relationships or projections are mirrors to our soul. The only person we cannot see in this world without a mirror is ourselves.

What do you do if you have toxic people in your life?
When toxic people show up in your life, look to see what you need to learn, do not judge yourself, make powerful observations, ask powerful questions and be willing to take actions. Why are you attracting this type of relationship into your life at this moment? You have a choice in every moment. Your happiness depends on no one but you.

How can I avoid taking things personally?

• Respect and love yourself
• See other people as they are, with a different point of view, listen to what lies behind their words, what do they need, how do they feel?
• Refuse to eat emotional poison - toxic thoughts, resentment, guilt, shame, anger
• Become immune to poison - toxic words may only stick to you if you accept them
• Be immune to others opinions - what they think about you is none of your business
• Release self judgment - be gentle, kind and compassionate with yourself
• Relinquish self importance - give up your need to be right
• Everyone lives in their own world, dream - including you
• Everyone is coming from their own perspective
• Your truth is personal to you
• Transform your thoughts, transform your life
• Embrace your freedom.

All transformation is just a shift in perspective.

Last night on my radio show Power of unfolding your spiritual Gifts - Getting out of your own way, as I listened with compassion to the courageous callers as they spoke with psychic medium Hans Christian King, I realized we are all searching for answers and need validation from others, as we do not trust ourselves. We always believe the answers are out there some where, we do not trust the information that we are receiving through our intuition, our gut feelings, our dreams, visions, hunches, impulses, our own psychic abilities and spiritual gifts. We get in our own way with our beliefs, trying to force an outcome, not trusting ourselves, doubts, fears

Grief cannot be explained to anyone who has not lost someone close to them. Until that happens, in that single moment you can truly empathize and feel the depth of the pain and compassion for all those who have lost someone dear to them. It feels like someone took a spoon and scooped out your heart, there is an emptiness that feels like it will never be filled. Sometimes we need help and support during the grieving process. Everyone grieves differently, and a reading from Hans can take years off of therapy. Sometimes all someone needs is just one message, an assurance that there loved one is at peace, and the validation that they are receiving messages and not going crazy. Learning to trust themselves.

What is our deepest fear? - not just the fear of death, that death is so final, but of death as obliteration, death with nothing beyond it. We fear our loved ones are lost to us forever when they die. We also fear that we will vanish when our time comes.

What survives death?.………..

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